All too often, many people, both men and women, sadly live their entire lives without ever really knowing or fully understanding who they truly are or knowing themselves entirely, and that is a sad and tragic thought on which to ponder because the reality is that knowing one’s true self is key to us as humans finding inner peace and serenity.

The famed author Shannon Alder has been quoted saying “One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself”, and all too often many of us do unknowingly and regrettably end up falling into the routine of living and behaving in a way that is for pleasing other people and not necessarily ourselves.

This is an unfortunate reality for millions of women in particular, as they are expected to play multiple roles as mothers, sisters, bosses, employees and everything in between.

The end result of donning these multiple “hats” so to speak is that the true self, the person that you need and want yourself to be, becomes lost in the maze of duty and responsibility that we feel we owe to other people. Continue reading →

Women take care of everything and everyone from the minute we wake till we fall asleep, most nights from sheer exhaustion. Shouldn’t that be enough? But it isn’t, because the most important person in that equation is being the one most marginalized.

Women are predisposed to be the carers of the family, no matter what role we’re playing; daughters, wives, mothers, friends. And it’s sucking the life out of us. Meanwhile, the men in our lives don’t get how much we sacrifice to make sure their lives are running smoothly.

Men’s brains are trained to think differently than ours. They don’t feel guilty when they don’t do something they’re supposed to do. Instead, they blame it on someone else, or quite simply, circumstance.

Women, on the other hand, tend to overthink everything, so much so that we lose sleep over it, or wake up suddenly in the middle of the night because we forgot to do so-and-so.

It’s exhausting, and it has to stop! Continue reading →

For a lot of people, it isn’t always easy to know that they are experiencing the negative effects of self neglect. It can happen very easily to anyone when they have life elements like children, financial issues, feelings of inadequacy, or physical problems.

The time and energy that these various obstacles take to overcome can leech the energy of the most resilient people. Fortunately, the mind and body have a lot of built-in tells that alert you to the fact that there’s some kind of deficiency. Here are some signs and symptoms to keep an eye on.

You’re Irritable Often

When you’re in need of more self-care, it’s a lot easier to be upset or disgruntled. This is because the toll of going without what you need is beginning to weigh in on you, and the resentment that you feel has begun to slowly carve itself into other areas in life. Being mindful of what is actually bothering you will help you to focus on correcting the problem. This can be especially true of long-term romantic relationships. Continue reading →