You are different from everyone else. Celebrate that. You offer a unique perspective in this game called life. We should all be thanking you. If you are constantly comparing yourself, it means you aren’t happy with who you are. Why is that?
People are brought up to conform to society. If you don’t fit within society’s norms, you are looked upon disapprovingly. However, most people aren’t normal in the truest sense of the word.
Everyone has quirks and idiosyncrasies. It’s these differences that allow us to find solutions to problems. It also keeps us from getting bored. Imagine if everyone were truly the same. There would be nothing new to discover about one another.
There are some reasons to conform. For instance, you need to follow the rules and laws of your country and community. Otherwise, you will suffer consequences for not doing so. Continue reading
When it comes to the question of self-perception everyone thinks of themselves in certain regard that determines how they treat themselves. This becomes the basis in which we project ourselves to others.
Perceptions are developed over time based on an individual’s background and their support system.
Take, for instance, an individual brought up by abusive parents who prey on their self-esteem. Such an individual is constantly belittled and persuaded that there is nothing likable about them and with time they believe it to be true.
Others dislike themselves based on their physical appearance especially those with a disability or a deformity. It becomes entirely impossible to find happiness without genuinely liking yourself. Continue reading
A substantial number of people are caught in a self-inflicted trap trying desperately to please others. This takes away their true purpose in life with wasted efforts to keep up with what is expected of them. It is not only sad but also limits their personal experiences to what third parties think.
Above everyone’s opinion, yours matters the most as it defines your scope as a person. This has a self-fulfilling effect when compared to making life decisions based on what others think is right for you. Relying on your opinion first gives you a self-concept which becomes your basis for confidence.
A self-concept puts everything into perspective with your character being in tune with your self-worth and the range of personal abilities that adequately equip you in your different endeavors in life. This is the best case scenario for a balanced individual but those who ride along with other people’s expectations clearly lack a handle on their lives. Continue reading